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9 Essential Oils for Lovers

Spice Up Your Relationship by Incorporating These 9 Essential Oils for Lovers!

February. The month we celebrate love! Love is truly life's most precious gift and the physical expression of romantic love can either be incredibly fulfilling, lost and non-existent or for most people, somewhere in between. Using these 9 essential oils for lovers is a beautiful way that you can pour new excitement into your marriage.


Let's face it. Obstacles can creep into our love lives. 


Fatigue, stress, physical issues of ill-health and self-limiting beliefs are some of the biggest stumbling blocks we have to overcome to enjoy a fulfilling sex life.


It's really important to find that space where you feel completely free to enjoy physical intimacy with your mate. Consider these ideas to overcome common obstacles.


  • De-stress and get enough sleep! We are a culture that runs from one thing to the next. Lives are in high gear for many, which contributes to stress and exhaustion. Make it a priority to get at least 7 hours of sleep each night. Turn off those screens earlier so you're not overstimulated at bedtime. Draw a warm bath and throw in a handful of sea salt with a few drops of your favorite, relaxing essential oil such as lavender or a relaxing blend. Light a few candles and put on soft music.


    It is so important to FIRST treat yourself with love.

Love yourself enough to do simple things which go a long way towards relaxing and feeling amorous.

  • Eat well so you feel well. It is an absolute fact that when we eat well (clean proteins, lots of veggies and some fruit, only whole, grainy carbs and lots of pure water), we feel better physically. When we feel well physically, we feel better about ourselves which supports a healthy, sexy life.

  • Exchange your toxic thoughts and beliefs for healthier ones. Let's face it, we all have some self limiting beliefs. Common ones are, my butt's too big or I'm fat or maybe other thoughts that limit your ability to flow freely in the moment...and in life. Speak to yourself in love. Encourage yourself. Be kind to yourself.

Yes, we all have areas that need work, but using affirmations coupled with essential oils such as bergamot, wild orange or an invigorating blend can help you replace negativity with some emotional self-love and acceptance.


The reality of the human mind says, "What you say to me is only an opinion. What I say to myself is absolute gospel."


?What ARE you telling yourself?

I challenge you to re-write your life script by speaking what you want into your life.


Some examples?


Look in the mirror every evening and acknowledge your wins from the day. Tell yourself, I love you and I am enough. Seriously! Look yourself in the eye and give yourself some love!


We are experts at tearing ourselves down but how the heck will we ever get beyond those self-limiting beliefs if our self-inflicted story is one of criticism? There is great power in affirmations. Couple those with emotionally supportive essential oils? Now you have some real power to change things!

When you inhale the aroma of a pure (key word here) essential oil, it can be a powerful way to affect memory, hormones and your emotions through your olfactory receptors and your limbic brain.

9 Essential Oils for Lovers


Your limbic brain structures affect long-term memory (hippocampus), the emotions (amygdala), the autonomic nervous system and hormones (hypothalamus), as well as regulating your blood pressure, heart rate, and attention.


The olfactory system (smell system) is closely associated with the limbic brain and that's why essential oils have such profound physiological and psychological effects on our entire body!


Our sense of smell stimulates the nerve endings of the olfactory bulb, which lies at the back of the nose, which in turn stimulates a part of the brain called the limbic system that triggers our libido,

Blossom Kochhar, renowned aroma therapist.

The essential oils do magic and stimulate the pituitary gland, the master endocrine gland, which controls hormone production. In-activeness of pituitary gland can lead to low sex drive. So, the oils help keep it in an active state, Aromatherapist, Dr. Naresh Arora, Chase Aroma Therapy.

Essential oils molecules are so tiny that they quickly penetrate the skin and move into the bloodstream carrying their powerful benefits to the entire body.


Just a simple overview and basic understanding of how essential oils work to benefit our sexuality gives us a framework to explore their libido enhancing effects further.


Let's take a look at the "9 Essential Oils for Lovers and how to use them safely.

The first order of safety is making sure you have a high quality, pure essential oil brand. I mention brands specifically because there is a huge problem with adulteration in the essential oils world. After much research I, personally and professionally only trust one brand for use on my body, my family or my clients. Adulteration is common and the risk is just not worth it!


Get more info on my trusted brand of essential oils here.


**A general rule of thumb for diluting high quality essential oils for adult use is 2% to 4%, so roughly, 6-12 drops of your essential oils into 1 TBSP of a carrier oil such as coconut, almond or avocado oil.

Now on to the top 9 ?Essential Oils for Lovers!



  • Exotic, fiery and fresh

  • Blends well with cedarwood, coriander, frankincense, wild orange, patchouli and sandalwood

  • Key qualities: Aphrodisiac, cephalic, stimulating, tonic and warming

Ginger is a warming oil. Always dilute with a carrier oil such as fractionated coconut or sweet almond oil when using topically. Great coupled with wild orange for a warming back or foot massage. Can use in a handful of sea salt thrown in to an awesome warming bath. Supports longevity. Enhances fertility.

Black Pepper

  • Warm and spicy for the body and mind. Enhances alertness and stamina.

  • Blends well with sandalwood and frankincense

  • Key qualities: Aphrodisiac, increases blood flow

Black pepper is also a warming oil. Great for warming and supporting great blood flow or circulation. Heavily dilute with a carrier oil. Black Pepper is a middle note when blending with other essential oils such as citrus or florals. Great in massage blends. Boosts energy and stamina (use on bottoms of the feet). Fires up the libido. Increases attraction.


  • Musky, sensual and warm

  • Blends well with frankincense, jasmine, lemon, rose and ylang ylang

  • Key qualities: Aphrodisiac, grounding, opening, purifying, relaxing and soothing

Spritz sheets with sandalwood and water from a glass spray bottle to induce relaxation and an exotic and sensual atmosphere. Makes a delicious perfume for men or women blended with other oils or alone. Aroma helps release tension and anxiety, fear and other stress related difficulties in the bedroom. Use as a sensual massage oil blended in your favorite carrier oil with ylang ylang or the blend for women. Supports male arousal. Enhances physical sensuality.

Clary Sage (NOT for use in pregnancy unless past your established due date. I would also caution people who have had estrogenic forms of cancer)

  • Sweet, mellow, musky

  • Blends well with bergamot, cypress, geranium, jasmine, lavender, wild orange and sandalwood

  • Key qualities: Aphrodisiac, balancing, euphoric, inspiring, intoxicating, relaxing, soothing

Add 5-10 drops into some sea salt, then into your warm bath as an excellent de-stressor. Helps support balancing emotions, irritability and nervousness. Use a few drops of clary sage on pillow to encourage deep sleep and vivid dreams. Apply 6 drops in 1 TBSP carrier oil, topically to the abdomen, to support normal hormonal balance. Brings a sense of calm and confidence. Soothing in labor diffused or diluted in a carrier oil for a back, abdominal or foot massage.


  • Fresh, strong, woody

  • Blends well with bergamot, patchouli, geranium, juniper, lavender, thyme and spice oils

  • Key qualities: Aphrodisiac (especially men), enhances circulation and sensitivity to touch

Rosemary is reputed to support emotions and bolster confidence. Enhances the spiritual dedication to love. Supports healthy male libido and participation by using a few drops in a carrier oil applied to the abdomen, daily. Use in massage oil blend with any of the above mentioned essential oils and a carrier oil. Great in a bath with sea salt, geranium and white fir. Increases blood flow and supports good circulation. Increases sensitivity to touch. Heightens sensations.


  • Anisy, fresh, slightly musky, sweet spicy, woody

  • Blends well with bergamot, clary sage, cypress, frankincense, jasmine, sandalwood and spice oils

  • Key qualities: Aphrodisiac, comforting, soothing, purifying, strengthening, warming

Refreshing bath oil. Use 5 drops used in sea salt added to bath for fatigue, exhaustion, head tension and stress. Diffuse to create a sensual mood that is uplifting yet calming. Makes a great aphrodisiac massage oil blend with coupled with any of the oils above.

Ylang Ylang

  • Balsamic, floral, rich, sensual, slightly spicy, soft and sweet

  • Blends well with bergamot, jasmine, rose, sandalwood and vetiver

  • Key qualities: Aphrodisiac, calming, euphoric, sedating, soothing

For a sensual, relaxing massage, use with the blend for women and sandalwood. Supports peace, calm and freedom to play and explore when diffused. The oil of the inner child. Supports the heart on both a physical and emotional level. Use 5-10 drops with sea salt in a warm evening bath to relax and open. Ignites the libido. Increases attraction between people.

Jasmine & Rose (In the Blend for Women)

While Jasmine and Rose absolutes can not currently be purchased from my favorite essential oils company, they are part of the Blend for Women along with other amazing aphrodisiac-type essential oils. This blend is intoxicating and blends with your unique chemistry and pheromones to support enhanced attraction.

  • Complex, sensual blend

  • Blends well with any oils that blend with jasmine or rose or perfect alone!

  • Key qualities: Aphrodisiac, supports hormonal balance, enhances allure

Use as a sensual, chemical-free perfume..just a few drops in a spray bottle with distilled water. Makes a beautiful massage oil blended with any carrier oil. Diffuse to set the mood for love or put a few drops in your bath in a bit of sea salt. Enhances femininity and allure.


9 Essential Oils for Lovers

Open your heart, mind and emotions to the use of these 9 essential oils for lovers and see what level of fresh, new excitement they bring to your love life. I don't need any great detail but I'd love to hear a bit about how they affect your lovey dovey endeavors.



xoxo, Lisa

Essential Oils Safety and Dilution

Essential Oils Dilution Chart

How to Use Essential Oils Safely on Your Whole Family

This easy to use Essential Oils Dilution Chart will help you safely use oils for all members of your family.

As a midwife, natural wellness educator, I'm often asked how to use essential oils safely for both children and adults. Essential oils are powerful and just a little bit goes a L-O-N-G way!

For topical use, dilution is always a good idea. Rest assured, you will not dilute the effectiveness but will make your essential oil go further since a very large percentage evaporates off of the skin when no carrier oil is applied. A carrier oil is just an oily oil that helps carry the essential oil into the body. That could be coconut oil, fractionated coconut oil, olive oil or many others (blog post on carrier oils is forthcoming).

Dilution occurs when you drip a drop, or more of an essential oil into a carrier oil before applying to the skin

This is very important for using essential oils on little ones and helpful, even on adults. Not only does it absorb better, it spreads your essential oil over a larger surface area of your skin and that helps increase the effect.

How much to dilute depends on what type of health issue you are trying to address. Be sure to save and share our essential oils dilution chart but here are some quick guidelines to help you with some details.

Essential Oil Dilution Chart  Guidelines for Topical Use

  • 0.3% dilution or less is appropriate for babies from birth to around a year of age. My general rule of thumb for newborns is to use only if needed, in consultation with a practitioner well-versed in essential oil safety for newborns. Newborns are so fresh and responsive that just 1 drop in a Tablespoon or two of carrier oil works well. Over 3 months, the 0.3% dilution is an appropriate application. Apply to the baby's feet and put on cotton socks.
  • 1.5% to 3% dilution would be appropriate on children from 1-5 years, the elderly, pregnant women and those with compromised immunity or sensitive skin. This is a great dilution for rubbing over larger areas of skin in adults, basic skin support and daily use.
  • 3% 10% dilution is great for short-term use or for a temporary health issue where you may need extra respiratory support or for achy, tired or overworked muscles.
  • 25%-50% dilution is sometimes warranted to support occasional muscle cramps, bruising, aches or for seasonal support.
  • Neat or using essential oils, undiluted, on the skin should be done with understanding and care because some people can experience skin irritation or sensitivity.

Some essential oils that can be used without dilution by most people are: Melaleuca, Lavender, Roman Chamomile, Frankincense, Sandalwood, Cypress, Eucalyptus and others.


Essential Oils Safe Dilution


Keep in mind that we are all different in nature and chemistry so what may be totally fine for one person, may cause itching or discomfort in another. If that happens, just follow it with a carrier oil to immediately reduce any discomfort. Yep! Using a carrier oil quickly, reduces any skin discomforteven in the eyes!

Essential Oils Reference Book

Refer to a quality reference guide, such as the Modern Essentials, Contemporary Guide to the Therapeutic Use of Essential Oils for information on which oils traditionally can be used without dilution and when that may be appropriate.

Most of the time, dilution is beneficial and does not detract from the essential oils ability to support your bodys health goals but you can bet, if I get a bug bite, a sting or burn myself, Im grabbing my bottle of lavender and putting it on asap!

Why THIS Midwife only uses one specific brand of essential oils

Be extremely cautious about which brand of essential oil you choose to use for your familys health. Know your brands quality control standards from the inside out.

There are many adulterated essential oils on the market. After a LOT of research, I choose to use one specific brand of essential oils because of their rigorous standard of quality from start to finish. Heres why.

Side note: Im not trying to be weird, coy or salesy by not disclosing my brand here, Im just playing by FDA rules which limit my ability to share that info freely on my own blog! Its frustrating to say the least.

Ill be glad to share which brand of essential oils Ive settled on, after having done my research. Purity and Potency AND the integrity of the company are KING! Suffice it to say, there are a LOT of crappy essential oils out there that I would avoid like the plague! Check out the page on essential oils via the button below and Ill send info on the highest quality oils currently available on the market, right out to you.

I chose a company that supports sustainable sourcing and giving back to the communities they source their oils from. This means they are not going out, ravishing the world for profit. They partner with indigenous growers from all over the world to source their plants where they grow the best. They protect sustainability and foster self-reliance in many impoverished cultures. This level of partnership requires that no chemical pesticides are used and that the distillation process is meticulously done at the lowest possible temperature, which ensures potency and purity.

Each batch is then sent out for third party testing to ensure that only the highest quality essential oils are being bottled and sold by them.

Its either yes or nopass or fail! If it isnt up to snuff regarding potency and purity, it doesnt get bottled by my company. Period! They utilize one of three different outside labs to verify my oils are free from contaminants, fillers, pesticides, chemicals and other forms of adulteration, which is very common in the essential oils marketplace.

They partner with researchers, universities and medical professionals to bring essential oils out of the fringe, hippy-oil category and into educational conversations and mainstream health care by providing the highest quality essential oils on the market.

This company comes from a whole-body wellness philosophy which I can get behind.

ALL of this verifiable testing is why, many healthcare professionals are, just now, paying closer attention to the research regarding the therapeutic benefits of essential oils. With this company, the credibility and quality standards are in place and I feel confident that Im using and recommending the safest essential oils on the market.

hugs, Lisa